Hi friends! Welcome to Rhinestones and Rants! I’m Alyssa, and let me start by saying: if you’ve found your way here, you’re either a fellow dance parent, about to become one, or maybe just wondering if this sparkly, slightly chaotic world is the right place for your child. Spoiler alert: it might be. But it all starts with choosing the right studio.

Let me tell you why I’m here. My daughter Joelle has been dancing since she was two years old. She’s now almost 19, finishing up her freshman year majoring in Dance, an incredible achievement built on years of sweat, sacrifice, sequins, and yes, a whole lot of studio hopping. We attended six different dance schools before she gave her final senior solo, and every single stop taught us something new: about dance, about people, and about the choices that matter most for your child’s growth.

By day, I’m a business executive leading a global sales enablement organization. But evenings and weekends? That’s when I became that dance mom, eyelash glue in my purse, rhinestones in my car, snacks in hand, and always one costume away from a mild breakdown. I never really meant to become one, but I saw early how fast this world pulls you in. Joelle was born to perform, and when she slipped on her first pair of ballet shoes, you could just see it in her eyes: this was her thing.

She’s trained in everything; Contemporary, Jazz, hip-hop, jazz funk, lyrical, ballroom, even tap (though she’d prefer not to talk about it). And through all of it, I was the one behind the camera, the checkbook (Yes I was a better ATM than Citibank) and sometimes the emotional mop when things got tough and yes there were lots of those moments,

So why this blog, and why this podcast? Because I wish someone had told me what to look for. I wish I had a roadmap, a checklist, or even just someone to say, “Hey, maybe don’t enroll your kid at a studio where the owner yells at the kids in front of the parents.” (True story.). If I only knew then what I knew now….but you are lucky as you have me and so many great guests that will be sharing and giving you the 911 on all things DANCE!

So Let’s dig into the good stuff:

What to Look for in a Dance Studio

When choosing a studio, remember: you’re the customer and this is your child. You don’t owe any studio blind loyalty. You owe your child the best environment to thrive artistically, emotionally, and physically. Here’s what to consider:

1. Qualified Instructors
• Are teachers experienced and credentialed?
• Do they have performance or competitive experience?
• Are they trained in child development or injury prevention?

2. Class Structure and Curriculum
• Are classes age-appropriate and skill-progressive?
• Is there a clear syllabus or growth plan for each level?
• How often do students get feedback?

3. Studio Culture
• Is the environment supportive, inclusive, and safe?
• Are dancers encouraged to support each other?
• How are parents treated?

4. Facility Quality
• Clean studios? Proper flooring? Mirrors?
• Adequate space for stretching, warming up, and waiting?
• Is safety a priority?

5. Style Variety
• Do they offer multiple styles so your child can explore?
• Do they allow cross-training in different genres?

6. Performance Opportunities
• Do they participate in competitions, recitals, conventions?
• Is there pressure to compete or can your child dance recreation?


Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

• High turnover in staff (this is often a sign of internal drama)
• Favoritism or clique culture among students and teachers
• Pressure to spend or compete without clear value or progression
• No room for parental questions or transparency
• Lack of communication or unclear policies
• Overcrowded classes where kids get lost in the shuffle
• Injury-prone dancers—bad floors, overtraining, or lack of conditioning


Questions to Ask Every Studio Owner:

1. What’s your teaching philosophy?
2. What is your policy on injuries and burnout?
3. How do you handle bullying or dancer conflict?
4. What’s your studio’s view on competition vs. recreational dance?
5. How do you decide which dancers are placed in which routines or levels?
6. How do parents communicate with instructors?
7. What does a typical year look like—cost-wise and commitment-wise?
8. What opportunities are there for growth outside the studio (conventions, intensives, college prep)?


Final Thoughts

This journey isn’t just about finding a place where your kid can do pirouettes. It’s about finding a second home. A village. A training ground. A safe space. And sometimes? You won’t get it right on the first try and that’s okay. We didn’t.

But with a little guidance, a lot of questions, and a gut-check or two, you can absolutely find the right fit for your dancer and for you.

This blog is just the beginning of Rhinestones and Rants. We’re going to talk about it all; dance teams, college apps, burnout, dance mom friendships (and feuds), teacher favorites, auditions, and what no one tells you until it’s too late.

And let’s be real we’re going to spill the tea. The real tea. Because while the rhinestones may shine on stage, there’s a whole lot of reality happening behind the curtain and I’m here for all of it.

Thank you for being here. If you’re a parent, I see you. If your kid is dancing and you’re trying to do it all? You’re not alone. I hope you stick around, share your stories, and maybe even join me on the podcast.

Now grab your planner, your water bottle, a large glass of wine (trust me on this).  your sparkliest lip gloss and remember this one thing:

Never, ever let anyone dull your sparkle.

Catch you on the flip side of the marley floor.

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Shine on…..Alyssa

When does a dancer know it’s time to step off the stage and step into leadership? For Maia Suckle, it wasn’t a single moment—it was a series of quiet nudges, hard lessons, and one powerful push over the edge that led her to open her own dance studio.

In this week’s episode of Rhinestones and Rants, I sat down with Maia for an incredible, no-holds-barred conversation about her journey from professional dancer to studio owner—and everything she’s learned along the way. Spoiler: It’s not as glamorous as it looks from the outside.

We dug deep into the realities of running a studio:

• When Maia knew she had to open her own space—and what finally pushed her to take the leap

• How her years dancing professionally shaped her vision for the kind of studio she wanted to build

• Whether owning a studio turned out to be the dream she imagined—or a full-blown plot twist she never saw coming

I’ve always been fascinated by how Maia’s professional dance career informed the way she runs her studio today. She didn’t just create a space to train great dancers—she built a home that prioritizes values, character, and community. But as Maia shared so candidly, passion alone doesn’t keep the lights on or the drama out.

“Being a studio owner isn’t just about loving dance,” Maia told me. “You become a mentor. A psychologist. A second mom. You wear so many hats—and every decision you make impacts kids’ lives.”

We talked about the tough stuff: the burnout, the sacrifices, the pressure to keep everyone happy, and the drama (oh, the drama) that can bubble up in a studio environment—especially when well-meaning parents get a little too involved. Maia opened up about the signs of a healthy studio culture, the red flags parents should watch out for, and what she wishes more parents asked their studio owners from day one to ensure they’re aligned.

This episode isn’t just for parents and dancers—it’s for anyone who’s ever
dreamed of opening a studio, or who’s running one right now and wondering if they’re the only one feeling the weight of it all. Maia shared what she’d do differently if she could start over, the lessons she’s learned the hard way, and advice for any teacher or parent thinking of opening their own studio.

And on a personal note—this conversation was extra special for me. Maia started out as the studio owner I entrusted with my daughter’s dance journey, but over time, she became one of my closest friends. We’ve been through it all—including a memorable moment when she almost threw me out of the studio (yes, we laugh about it now!). That turning point deepened our respect for each other and revealed how aligned we truly were in our values.

Bringing my daughter to Maia’s studio gave me so much more than just a place for her to dance—it gave me a friendship I cherish, and a deeper appreciation for what it really takes to lead a studio with integrity and heart.

Whether you’re a parent, dancer, studio owner, or someone thinking about stepping into this wild world, I hope you’ll tune in. Maia’s story is raw, real, and filled with wisdom for anyone who loves dance—or loves a dancer.

Listen now on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your
podcasts. And don’t forget to leave us a review and share with your dance
family!

Shine On,
Alyssa 

There are some episodes that stay with you long after the mic is turned off—and this was one of them. In this deeply personal conversation, I sat down with someone I’ve known since she was little: Cameron Suckle. Cameron just graduated with her BFA in Dance from UT Austin, and watching her grow into the powerhouse she is today has been nothing short of inspiring.

But her journey wasn’t an easy one.

Cameron was always a beautiful dancer, graceful and captivating—but rarely center stage. She lived in the shadows of the spotlight, often overlooked, always in the background. And while her talent was undeniable, it took more than skill to be seen. It took her mom opening a studio for Cameron to reclaim her confidence and take up space.

As the daughter of a studio owner, the expectations were sky-high. Choreographers pushed her harder. Peers watched her closer. Friends—some genuine, some not—suddenly included her when the spotlight finally hit. But what Cameron shared in this episode wasn’t about superficial praise or position—it was about the mental toll that journey took.

She bravely opened up about the bullying, the manipulation, the mental abuse she endured in the competitive dance world. And yet, despite it all, she rose. Her time in college became the mirror she needed to reflect on what she’d been through—and how far she’d come.

This episode was raw. It was honest. It was a beautiful blend of vulnerability and strength. Cameron didn’t hold back, and because of that, I know her story will resonate with every young dancer who’s ever felt unseen, unchosen, or unsure of where they belong.

She’s now stepping into her next chapter—teaching, maybe even opening her own studio one day. The little girl I once knew has grown into a woman with vision, resilience, and most importantly, self-worth.

Cameron’s journey reminds us that being in the back doesn’t mean you stay there. That every dancer—no matter where they stand in formation—has a voice, a story, and a sparkle that no one can dull.

I hope this episode touched you like it did me.

Remember never let anyone dull your sparkle

Shine on
Alyssa 

When you think of hip-hop dance legends, one name rises to the top with unmatched energy, authenticity, and heart: Brooklyn Jai.

I recently had the absolute honor of sitting down with this icon on Rhinestones and Rants, and to say it was an unforgettable episode would be an understatement. From the first beat of the conversation, Brooklyn Jai brought exactly what he brings to every stage, every studio, and every kid he mentors, raw emotion, unapologetic truth, and boundless passion.

A Story That Moves You

Brooklyn Jai’s journey is one of grit, grind, and gratitude. From the streets that gave birth to hip-hop to the stages that now celebrate his name, his rise was never handed to him — it was earned, moment by moment, class by class, heartbreak by breakthrough.

On the podcast, he opened up like never before. There were tears, there were belly laughs, and there were moments that left all of us speechless. His honesty cut through the noise of what dance can sometimes become, filtered, superficial, polished for the ‘gram and brought us back to its core: connection, culture, and community.

The Way He Sees Our Kids

What makes Brooklyn Jai extraordinary isn’t just his choreography — it’s his spirit. His ability to walk into a room full of young dancers and make every single one feel seen, validated, and
important is his superpower.

Parents talk about the way their child’s confidence skyrockets after taking his class. Dancers describe the moment they finally felt like they belonged, just because Brooklyn Jai told them they mattered. That’s not just teaching. That’s transformation.

The Icon Who Keeps Giving

Even with a resume that could humble anyone, Brooklyn Jai remains grounded, grateful, and wildly generous with his time, energy, and love for the culture. He’s not in this for fame, he’s in
this for impact. And it shows.

He reminded us during our talk that hip-hop isn’t just a style. It’s a statement. It’s how you walk, how you own your truth, how you fight through the noise and still choose to show up, fierce, flawed, and free.

A Must-Listen Episode 

If you haven’t tuned into this one yet, please do. It’s not just a conversation about dance. It’s a masterclass in authenticity, a celebration of a man who has shaped generations, and a tribute to the rhythm that keeps the world spinning.

Brooklyn Jai is more than a hip-hop choreographer. He’s a movement. And on Rhinestones and Rants, we were lucky enough to feel it.

This week on Rhinestones and Rants, I had the privilege of sitting down with Scott and Joanne Morales—two parents who didn’t just raise a dancer, they raised a trailblazer. Their son, Gavin Morales, has carved out a name for himself in the dance world, but the journey to get there was anything but smooth.

What does it really mean to raise a boy in dance? What does that path look like when it’s not just rare—but ridiculed?

In this raw and emotional episode, we dive deep into the Morales family story. From early skepticism to all-out support, Scott Morales shares how he went from hoping his son would choose baseball to becoming one of the fiercest, most devoted dance dads I’ve ever seen. His transformation was not only heartwarming—it was heroic.

Joanne, the rock of the family, opened up about the sacrifices made along the way. Dance wasn’t just Gavin’s dream—it became a family mission. From long drives, tough choices, and emotional whiplash, Joanne’s devotion and strength are the backbone of Gavin’s success.

But what stopped me in my tracks was hearing about the death threat Gavin once received—yes, a death threat—for dancing. As a parent, imagine the fear. Imagine navigating that trauma with your child. Scott and Joanne shared how they handled that moment with poise, grace, and unwavering love. Their honesty in recounting that chapter shook me.

Gavin’s journey—once an anomaly for boys in dance—is now a beacon. From winning Velocity Dance Convention to appearing on Dance Moms and The Ellen Show, and now working alongside Brian Friedman as an apprentice for RADx, Gavin has proven that boys not only belong in dance—they can thrive, lead, and inspire.

His path wasn’t typical. It was lonely at times. But it was powerful.

This episode isn’t just about dance—it’s about parenting, bravery, love, and rewriting the narrative for boys who choose to follow their passion in a world that doesn’t always understand it.

It’s real. It’s heartfelt. It’s one you don’t want to miss.

This is one family that never let anyone dull their Sparkle

Shine on
Alyssa 

For over a decade, I’ve walked through the iconic red doors of Millennium Dance Complex—my daughter by my side, dreams in our hearts, and rhinestones in our bags. I’ve watched world-class choreographers create magic. I’ve seen tour buses full of fans stop just to snap a photo in front of that famous red wall beneath the sparkling crystal chandelier. Millennium has always felt electric—like something bigger than all of us was happening inside those mirrored walls.

But here’s the thing: I never knew who was behind it.

That is, until now.

On this week’s episode of Rhinestones and Rants, I finally got to sit down with the mastermind behind Millennium Dance Complex, Anne-Marie Hudson, and let me tell you, this interview changed everything.

After weaving through three layers of gatekeepers (yes, three!), I finally tracked her down. And Anne-Marie, in all her grace, said yes. What followed was a raw, honest, powerful conversation that pulled back the curtain on one of the most influential women in the dance world.

She’s the heartbeat of Millennium.
The original visionary.
The spiritual force behind a global dance movement.

Anne-Marie didn’t come from a flashy Hollywood dance background. She wasn’t a household name in the L.A. dance scene. But what she did have? Hustle. Vision. And a passion project that turned into a global empire.

She built Millennium as a platform to give unknown choreographers a shot—and in doing so, she helped shape careers and launch legends. Stories like Brooklyn Jai, who was once homeless, sleeping in the Millennium parking lot. Anne-Marie gave him a chance to teach a class—and he sold it out. That one moment changed his entire life. Today, Brooklyn Jai is a powerhouse in his own right, and it all started with that one opportunity.

And he’s just one of many.

From Michael Jackson to Britney Spears, Justin Timberlake to the next wave of dance influencers, Millennium has been home to them all. But Anne-Marie? She’s been quietly leading the charge, never needing the spotlight… until now.

There’s a reason the energy inside Millennium is unmatched. It’s not just the music, the dancers, or the viral videos—it’s Anne-Marie’s spirit, woven into every wall, every studio, every opportunity.

This is more than just a podcast episode.
It’s a tribute.
It’s a reveal.
It’s a celebration of a woman who built an empire from a whisper and turned it into a global roar.

 Listen now to hear the full story—from spirituality to strategy, from red walls to red carpets—only on Rhinestones and Rants.
Because some legends don’t dance in the front row…
They build the stage.

Some stories just hit different. They don’t glitter with overnight success or come wrapped in privilege, they’re built in the trenches, layered with sacrifice, resilience, and the kind of raw determination that can’t be taught. That’s exactly what this week’s episode of Rhinestones and Rants delivers.

When I sat down with Tony Ricci (Owner Elite Dance Studio) and Keli Adams (Dance Director of Elite Dance Studio), two names deeply respected
in the competitive dance world, I knew I was in for an emotional and inspiring ride. But I wasn’t prepared for just how deeply their story would
move me.

A Dream Born in One Class a Week

Toni Ricci didn’t grow up with unlimited classes, endless costumes, or a platinum path laid out for her. In fact, she could only afford one dance class a week as a young girl. And yet, at seven years old, she already knew what she wanted, not just to dance, but to own a dance studio. Think about that. At an age when most kids are still figuring out what snack they want after school, she had already locked in her dream, and never let go.

No Trust Fund. No Business Degree. Just Drive.

Toni’s road wasn’t paved in gold. She didn’t have great credit. She didn’t have a fat savings account. What she did have was vision, and kids she loved and nurtured from a 7 year teaching job and an uncanny ability to learn from life. From working at an amusement park to eavesdropping on business conversations, she turned every job, every challenge, and every setback into a classroom. She took notes. She took chances. And when the time came to open her own studio? She leaned on her village. People believed in her. They co-signed. They lent money. She stared down debt and dove in.

And she built an empire, one class, one kid, one day at a time.

Elite Dance Center: A Studio That Shapes Souls

What makes Tony and Kelli elite isn’t just their success. It’s their impact. In this interview, you’ll hear the emotion in their voices, the tears in their eyes the gratitude, the exhaustion, the pride. They’ve poured everything into this studio, the kids and the families that make their studio ELITE. They’ve raised dancers who are now heading off to Juilliard and beyond. They’ve created more than a studio, they’ve built a second home, a safe space, and a launchpad for dreams.

They get real about the industry.

About the financial struggle.

About surviving COVID, which nearly shuttered their doors.

About the long hours, the quiet doubts, and the moments they had to bet on themselves, even when no one else would.

A Personal Full-Circle Moment

Tony was actually Joelle’s first dance teacher, at just two years old. So yes, this episode hit close to home. Watching these two share their story was like watching the Rocky training montage in real life — I swear I could hear the theme music playing.

Because this is what it takes to be elite:

Not just talent. Not just timing.

But tenacity.

Heart.

Faith in the impossible.

I can’t wait for you to hear their story. It’s unfiltered. It’s emotional. And it’s a reminder that with enough passion, anything is possible, even building a legacy from a single dance class a week.

Don’t miss this episode- It is one you will not forget…..Till then

Shine On-Alyssa

There are dance studios and then there are institutions.

The Rock Dance Studio is the latter. And at the heart of it all? Quinn Callahan.

In this week’s episode of Rhinestones and Rants, I sat down with the powerhouse behind one of the most respected names in competitive dance. Quinn Callahan isn’t just building dancers she’s building futures. And this conversation? It’s a masterclass in heart, hustle, and unapologetic excellence.

From the moment she stepped into the chair, Quinn was nothing but real. We talked about her early days—how it all started, the road to building The Rock into the national force it is today, and the growing pains along the way. But what stuck with me the most wasn’t just her empire. It was her ethos.

This is a woman who doesn’t waste time comparing her studio to others. She’s not scanning Instagram to see what the studio down the street is doing.

Why? Because Quinn Callahan has a vision and it’s fierce, focused, and rooted in her own values.

She’s rewriting the playbook:

Her dancers don’t just audition, they’re wanted.

She’s not training kids to chase jobs.

She’s training them to become the dancers that jobs chase.

She’s not producing routines. She’s producing leaders.

What makes Quinn’s leadership next level is that it’s never just about the win. Yes, her teams are unstoppable. Yes, her routines dominate national stages. But for Quinn, it’s deeper, it’s about developing resilient, respectful, grounded human beings who happen to be exceptional artists.

She’s also the driving force behind a nonprofit organization years in the making, a powerful initiative that’s helping dancers pursue college dreams through the SEED

Foundation: www.Seedance.org

Whether it’s on the comp floor or in a college admissions office, she’s making sure her dancers are seen, heard, and supported.

And honestly?

It was her passion that floored me.

You can feel how much she cares.

You can hear it in every word when she talks about her students.

And you can absolutely see it in every dancer who steps out under The Rock’s name.

If you’re a studio owner, a dance parent, or someone just trying to navigate the madness of the competition world, this episode is your blueprint. Quinn doesn’t just share her story. She shares her standards, her philosophy, and her unshakeable why.

Listen now to “Built on Rock, Fueled by Passion”  streaming everywhere you get your podcasts.

And Quinn, thank you.

For showing us that the true measure of success isn’t in medals…

It’s in the lives you shape.

There are some names in dance that need no introduction. Brian Friedman is one of them.

From choreographing for the likes of Britney Spears, Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, Madonna, and more, to being a four-time BMA nominee and visionary creative director, Brian isn’t just part of the dance world. He is the dance world.

This week on Rhinestones and Rants, we sat down with the one and only Brian Friedman for an episode we titled “Brian Friedman Unfiltered". Because let’s be real, every dancer I know has tried to master one of his combinations, studied his transitions, or hoped (prayed) to get called out by him at convention. And when they did get called out? It was game over. Life made.

But in this episode, we didn’t just talk five, six, seven, eight. We went deeper.

Brian opened up about career inflection points, his evolution from a child performer to a global choreographic icon, and the rollercoaster of mentorship, creativity, and vulnerability that has defined his journey. He even took us back to “little baby Brian", the moment that first sparked his love for dance. And I’ll just say it now: if you’re a parent of a dancer, grab the tissues.

What struck me most wasn’t just his insane resumé or the fact that he still moves like he’s 15 (seriously, watch him live and tell me otherwise). It was his authenticity.

Yes, this is the same Brian who’s moved stages and stadiums around the world. But behind the creative genius is a human being who still doubts his work, who sometimes questions his choreography, and then steps back and says, “Wait, this is actually good.” That kind of self-reflection? That’s not just humble. That’s powerful.

He talked about imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and how he pours his soul into mentoring the next generation of dancers. And let me tell you, as a mom of a dancer, I’ve personally seen the impact Brian has on young artists, including my own daughter. He doesn’t just shape movement. He shapes people.

And when I called Brian to invite him onto the show? There was no ego. No ‘I’m too busy.’
He showed up. Fully. Honestly. Unapologetically.

That alone said everything about who he really is.

So if you’ve ever danced to his counts, cried watching his pieces, or looked up to him from the back of the room, this episode is for you. This one’s a blueprint not just of Brian’s career, but of what it means to stay true to your art, your craft, and your heart… even decades into the game.

 Listen to “Still Slaying: The Brian Friedman Blueprints” now on all podcast platforms. Streaming on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, and more.

And Brian? Thank you. For showing up, for being real, and for reminding us all that the greats don’t just slay, they stay human.

In the world of rhinestones, eight-counts, and standing ovations, there’s a darker side we need to talk about and on this episode of Rhinestones and Rants, we go there.

I sat down with fellow dance mom and fierce advocate Vicky Inger for one of the most important and sobering conversations we’ve ever had: how to protect your dancer in an industry that doesn’t always prioritize their safety.

Because let’s be clear:
When someone slides into your DMs offering your dancer free photoshoots, free merch, or free classes, it might look like an exciting opportunity…

…but nothing is ever truly free.

In this powerful episode, we break down:

•  Real-life news stories about choreographers accused of misconduct with minors
•  Why no child should ever be left alone with any adult in a dance setting
•  What red flags to look out for when someone offers your child ambassador deals, modeling gigs, or “exposure”
•  Why even letting a dancer go to the restroom alone at conventions might not be a safe option
•  How to teach your child to trust their gut and how to listen to yours as a parent
•  Concrete safety measures families can take to protect their dancers both online and in person

We’re not here to scare you, we’re here to wake you up.

Because behind the glitter and glam, there are predators who know exactly how to play the game. They know how to manipulate young dancers’ dreams and parents’ pride. And it’s our job to raise awareness, set boundaries, and stay vigilant.

This isn’t just a “dance world” issue, it’s a real world issue.
And as parents, mentors, and guardians of young talent, we have to be smarter, louder, and bolder about speaking up.

 Tune in now to this must-listen episode of Rhinestones and Rants - “When Free Isn’t Free: Protecting Your Dancer” with special guest Vicky Inger.

Because their safety is worth everything.
And no free leotard is ever worth the cost of innocence.